Oh dear God.
Earlier this year, I had a gal email me asking what she should do for an upcoming wedding she was going to. She wasn't a bridesmaid... She was only attending the wedding. The bride had dictated that everyone dress in patriotic red or blue (not navy blue, mind you) for her 4th of July wedding. The bride would be the "white" part of the patriotic color scheme.
I don't know how the wedding went. But I think brides who have the audacity to pull this kind of shit out of their fat asses is going too far.
And trust me, I would know... As I have worked with some real piece of bitchtastic-ness brides in my time.
Apparently, though, this is a growing trend among brides... Dictating what their guests can wear to the wedding.
Of course, I find it perfectly acceptable for brides and grooms to set the tone of their wedding by saying the dress is "cocktail" (meaning short or "tea-length" dresses for women and suits for men), "black tie" or "formal" (meaning gowns for the women and tuxes for the men) or "white tie" (which means tuxes with white bow ties for the men - super fancy - and ball gowns for the women.)
But telling them what colors to wear or not wear? That's bullshit. If you're have a very small wedding where everyone knows each other, that's one thing. But more than 10 people? This is not acceptable. And my advice to anyone who gets invited to a wedding where a bride has requested this kind of crap: DON'T GO.
Simply send a gift (I recommend steak knives - as a way "severing" the friendship) and wish them "all the best on what will likely be a disappointing day, as the bride sounds like a controlling bi-atch."